What if I have a car accident with the baby in the car?
What if we try to find a bigger apartment before the baby's born?
What if we regret moving out of the area?
What if the baby comes early?
What if no one will employ me ever again?
What sort of pram should we get?
What should we call him?
What if I want to change my mind?
When should we start looking for a helper?
What if we don't like her?
What if she's bad with the baby?
What do I need to get when I'm back in Australia?
What if she's angry with me?
What if we don't get our new visas on time?
What if we move back to Australia?
What if our baby kicking me so much means he's going to be really hard work?
What if I can't cope?
What if I'm a bad mother?
What if I never get to sleep tonight?
13 comments:
Learn to meditate and let your thoughts go. I've had 3 babies in 4 years, and I wish someone would have told me that when I was pregnant with baby no.1.
It'll all work out. Follow your instincts. You will stretch, and you will cope.
And insomnia is very common in pregnancy. Prepares you for the sleeplessness once bubs comes. x
Ah the good old pregnancy insomnia...it's a bitch. Unfortunately these questions are only the beginning Bridget but eventually you learn to push them aside. Hope you managed to get some rest in the end. Hugs x
yeh yeh. We all know this one. Have not really slept since.
Everything will be ok. That was my mantra during yoga nidra. And it has.
xxx
Jill
What if you have a glorious, happy, healthy future in front of you - what then?
Breathe Honey, breathe.
xx's
: Then you have an accident with the baby in the car and HOPEFULLY everyone will be alright. What if I get run over tomorrow? NO point thinking about that shit.
: Well then you find a bigger apartment. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be.
: You can always move back later
: Then the baby comes early. LUCKILY you have access to a hospital so the baby can grow in there. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be
: You are MENTAL. someone will employ you again. I mean you are gorgeous, pretty people don't stay unemployed for long, kids or no kids
: Ask all those mates of yours who have had kids. We got the cheapest one in the shop that 5 years later is still going strong. Don't get suckered into the Bugaboo because it's the most expensive.
: The name will come to you
: You won't change your mind the minute you call him "X". He was always meant to be "X". BTW don't call him "X"
: Ask all those mates going through the same thing. I have a friend in HK who has one and I can ask her if you like?
: You can always find another one if you don't like her
: If she's bad with the baby you can always tell her to go away. Chances are she will have more of an idea than you will - first time mothers in those first weeks are CLUELESS
: Why would she be angry with you? You are paying her AND she gets to look after a little baby. If she's angry - fire her!
: Then you don't get them on time. I bet you do
: Then that will be awesome because WE get to see the baby and you will be back in Australia. You WILL have to look after the baby yourself though...
: The baby will be really hard work kicker or no kicker
: There will be days when you can't cope, but the majority of the time you will. Promise. Povo westie moles have them ALL the time and they seem to cope OK. You're pretty!
: You WON'T be a bad mother. You will do the best you can, same as your Mum.
: Somehow, SOMEHOW sleep comes. Try and get as much as you can now, it's ALL about to end. For many, many years. I'm at 5 and still counting. FIVE FUCKING YEARS!
Try not to worry. Just be. Relax and be confident that you guys will do an amazing job of raising a good boy. You're good people, come from good families AND you're pretty! Love ya guts x
Ditto to what Beth just said so eloquently.
Povo westie moles! That's gonna make me chuckle all day! x
All the philosophical ones I have no answer for, but pram-wise, buy a Baby Jogger! We have the Baby Jogger City Mini and it's great mate! It only weighs 7.5kg and you can fold it with one hand.
So the 4am burning questions don't end when you fall pregnant then?? :) You'll do great... roll with the punches and things always fall into place. You have a gorgeous son on the way - SO excited for you! x
Been there done that...it's happened to me too and it's quite normal you know during pregnancy us women are a lot more emotional and fragile than normal and we have the tendency to worry a lot and to need a lot more love and reassurance - if you are like me that might not help all the time the time but it's important to have a lot of support around especially from your partner and yes your head might still fill up with all sorts of thoughts but at least you know you have someone to share them with. I never shared my fears with anyone when I was pregnant and I think that in a way that made things worse for me, more difficult.
Talk about your fears and stay positive - your baby will love you for that! :)
Claudia xo
In response to your question on my blog:
I am 26 weeks, but the pics were taken at 25. The ultrasound machines sometimes have a switch that allows you to see the 3-D imaging. You just have to ask. Of course, there are machines that don't have 3-D, and there are places you can go to pay for it also. Hang in there!
P.S. My mind runs rampant like that late at night.
Bridge. Tai Tai. RELAX!!
Mothers in the middle of the African desert with a corrugated shack for a home make perfect Mothers. So will you. Mother nature makes us that way. Don't get caught up in all the gimmicks out there. Babies are very simple, and have been for centuries before there was a "baby market" in the consumer world we live in.
Your little guy is going to be the luckiest little fellow to have such a fun, funny, interesting, curious, tenacious and inquisitive Mum. Not to mention accomplished.
Sleep is a problem with pregnancy. I remember that feeling. But let the worry go.
A baby will slot in with your life, and will only enhance the adventure you guys are on.
Sonia xx
Wow - you really do need to switch off and maybe lay off the lamingtons before bed :-)
Your little boy, whatever you name him, will be so awesome and so much fun in a few months time you'll look back and laugh (and have a whole new list of things to worry about!). I can't help with any of that, but I've been through all the Hong Kong worries if that helps. We hired our helper 2 months before our son was born so we had time to get used to the idea and sort out any potential issues (there weren't any luckily). If it doesn't work out and you have to do without one for a while, you will survive even though it doesn't feel like it some days.
Visas, passports and all that annoying stuff will all work out too (and if you ask me, it's your husband's job to worry about all that while you're busy growing a person!). If you're going to move do it before the baby arrives, and not when he's 8 weeks old like I did.... And finally buy as much as you can in Aus - the excess baggage is sure to be a lot less than the mark-up on the same stuff here. I'm shopping for baby number 2 when we're in Sydney in December and I can't wait!
Good luck, sleep well and find a mantra, it will be better than ok - it'll be amazing.
welcome to motherhood.. ;-) it all works out in the end
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