If any of you lovely people reading this blog have ever lived overseas for an extended period of time, far far away from home, you'll understand what I'm about to talk about....
Since we moved to Hong Kong 9 months ago, I've found it increasingly challenging to keep up strong, steady relationships with people who, well.....don't live here. When we were in London, it was just people in Australia we needed to keep in touch with. Mostly family, and a few good friends. Still a challenge, but manageable. Even though the time difference was tough, it was only one time difference to contend with. Now being here in HK, a place we're still settling in to, a place where we're still trying to find our feet, I'm finding it tough. We've got friends and family in Australia, and friends in London and Europe. And now all my blogging buddies too. Various time zones, various schedules, so many different lives I want to keep up with, and generally feeling like I'm doing a bloody shit job at doing so.
I don't know whether I've been overwhelmed with the changes going on re: baby, or overwhelmed with the massive adjustments I'm still contending with living in a city I don't yet love, but for some reason, I feel very very
very out of touch. I'll put my hand up and say I know I'm not the best at emailing, phoning, texting, but sometimes I feel like the longer I'm away, the harder it is for my friends to bother too. Out of sight, out of mind, you know?
I don't believe you need to be skyping, emailing, phoning, texting every day or every week to maintain true relationships with people, and I definitely think it's up to
both people to make the effort, but I do believe it's important not to lose touch with the people you care about. I
love those friendships I've got where I know we don't have to regularly be in contact, but when we see each other, it's like not a day has passed. There's nothing more satisfying and comforting than truly knowing how deep a friendship is. But I also know that some friendships drift apart. People change, experience new things, meet new people, move on in their lives, sometimes in different directions, and it would be silly to expect a friendship that was so right at one point to
always be right. Some relationships grow, blossom, become better, and I think some are about a time and place and just tend to naturally fade should that change.
I don't really have a reason or agenda or intention behind writing this post, I think it was just something I wanted to get out, on virtual paper. Maybe it's because I'm going through a life changing period, feeling pretty vulnerable and nervous and excited and petrified, and a lot of my close friends aren't here to share it with me. Maybe that's it. I feel a long way away, at a time in my life I didn't think I would be. I'd always thought I'd share this time with certain people and right now it couldn't feel further from the truth. The reality of expat living I guess. Our choice, definitely. But a tough reality nonetheless.