Monday, May 7, 2012

Looking back. Looking forward.

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For the first 12 months of living in Hong Kong, I wasn't much of a fan of the place. I felt lost, lonely, like I didn't belong here. I struggled day in day out to find a job while Phil was swept up in his, working 13 hour days, delirious by the time he got home each night. We were living polar opposite lives, sharing only stories of our days and our weekends. I was wandering aimlessly through life, feeling alone, bored of my own thoughts and lack of direction.

I seemed to be missing the point of Hong Kong. No one I'd met said a bad word about the place. Yet there I was, frustrated, lonely, uninspired. I just didn't get what all the fuss was about. I wished with every inch of my being to be living at home in Sydney, with old friends, family, familiarity. I just couldn't see past what I didn't have. 

I look back at those months now, and strangely feel like it was all worth it. I'm in such a different place. One I wouldn't have arrived at, or appreciated, had I not gone through that time.

My three weeks back in Sydney in April have made me realise that although I love Sydney, the beaches, the food, the lifestyle, and I love being close to my family and friends, right now? Now, Hong Kong is home.

This is where my life is. My friends here are amazing. So many of us at are at the same stage of life, with little babies and consequently new challenges, finding our own ways through parenthood, but equally sharing the ride. That support, those relationships, are priceless during a time when no one really knows what the next day will bring.

We've figured out how to make life in this city work for us.
I've stopped thinking about when we're moving back to Sydney.
Because right now, I'm happy.
I'm home.

6 comments:

Beth said...

Love this post. So totally crap when you're going through it but necessary to come out stronger and more content at the other end. Very proud of you Mrs Holmewood (just about to call you Miss Hurley!) xx

KC said...

This was a really good post! I felt like I could relate (to some extent) as I am from one Country and living in a totally different Country now, because I am here in the US for a purpose. Like you said, which was a timely reminder for me, where I am now, is home, and I have to make it just that: home! Thanks for this gentle reminder and also just reminding me that other people share similar feelings too!

Mum on the Run said...

What a beautiful feeling.
Content and in the right place at the right time.
Enjoy.
:-) x

Mama of 2 boys said...

Oh this is awesome Bridget.
I seriously find you so inspiring and so brave to work your way through those feelings and emotions and that WHOLE YEAR of loneliness and displacement. I really don't think I would be able to cope.
I do get what you're saying though about needing to ride the rough times to get to the smooth ones.
It's all character building really and makes us appreciate all that we have.
I'm so happy for you, that you know where home is, at least for now... which is all that matters xo

little macaroon. said...

Fantastic piece, and certainly not an easy to place to make home when every aspect of your lifestyle has been turned arse-about-face. You should feel properly proud of yourself.

Posie Patchwork said...

Sounds like a good mind set to have, so often our postings were 2 years - you spend the first 6 months settling in, then the final 6 months planning your exit, didn't leave much time for enjoying the new experience. We've been in Canberra for 4 + years now, as i let my husband post without us to Brisbane (i know, no on understands why i would skip a Qld posting but it was a case of high school) & we still haven't done many of the things tourists do here, so when my husband is home, we're doing one a week for like 2 months to cover all the bases.
Sydney is our home town but i can't ever imagine living there again, i could never afford the lifestyle my parents provided me on the North Shore, i couldn't settle anywhere else, so Canberra - regional Canberra at that, is where we're settling, love Posie